I have a confession.
I’m not a big fan of the holiday season.
Why?
Because I’ve suffered a lot of loss in December, which colors my holidays with tinges of sadness and grief.
Yesterday marked the 5th anniversary of when my beloved dog, Bodhi Bear, died.
Bodhi was an extraordinary dog. He stood beside me through my late husband’s illness and death. He supported me with love and joy when everything felt overwhelming, and I felt so very lost.
When Spirit called me home to Connecticut, Bodhi Bear sat by my side for 5 1/2 days as we bounced across the USA in a noisy RV during the middle of the Pandemic.
I had no idea when we left California that Bodhi Bear was riddled with stomach cancer.
Somehow, he found the strength to bring me home.
A month later, we said our goodbyes, and my heart shattered into a million pieces.
I’m sharing this because I know the holidays can stir up a particular kind of grief that doesn’t always fit neatly into a season that insists we be happy, grateful, and full of cheer.
The holidays have a way of intensifying loss when everything around us seems louder, brighter, and more emotional; the absence can feel sharper.
You’re not alone.
The season is rich with triggers, including memories, routines, songs, and smells that can resurrect your loss anew.
As a Pet Loss Grief Counselor, I want to remind you that grief doesn’t take a holiday or have a schedule.
5 Ways of Coping with Pet Loss During the Holidays
If you’re missing a loved one this holiday season, here are 5 things you can do to take care of yourself:
- Modify Holiday Traditions:
It’s okay to scale back and say “no” to events that feel overwhelming or uncomfortable. Prioritizing self-care is a fantastic way to honor your pet. - Plan an Act of Remembrance:
Shift your focus from the absence to the love you share. Light a candle, look at photos, hang a special ornament, or donate to a local shelter in their name. - Feel the Love That Still Connects You:
Take a moment to feel all the love in your heart for your loved one and feel the love they have for you. - Find a Glimmer of Joy (Without Guilt):
It’s okay to experience enjoyment and seek out simple pleasures without feeling guilty. It’s an essential act of self-care. - Reach Out for Support:
If your grief feels overwhelming, ask for help.
You may also find comfort in remembering that your beloved animal’s support is still there for you.
If any of this resonates, please know that the Animal Muse crew and I get it.
Our hearts go out to you 💞,
~Cat, Minnie, Yogi Bear, and Finnegan
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